Feeling Disadvantaged for Not Leading a Conventional Coupled Life?

These scholars explain how people can be supported and protected, regardless of how they live

Bella DePaulo
7 min readApr 1, 2021
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All around the world, more and more people are living outside of conventional coupled life. How is that working out for them?

In an important new book, The Tenacity of the Couple-Norm, five scholars researched four very different European nations in some depth. Sasha Roseneil, Isabel Crowhurst, Tone Hellesund, Ana Cristina Santos, and Mariya Stoilova studied laws and policies relevant to coupling in each nation, and how they changed over time. They also looked at the role of social movements in effecting social change. They interviewed, at length, 67 people who were not living a conventionally coupled life, all from the capital cities of the four countries.

The four nations, as described by the authors, were:

· The United Kingdom, a late liberal welfare state

· Portugal, a post-dictatorship southern European welfare state

· Norway, a social democratic welfare state

· Bulgaria, a post-communist state

(Here is what “welfare state” means.)

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Bella DePaulo

“America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience,” according to the Atlantic. SINGLE AT HEART book is a gold medal winner. www.belladepaulo.com