My Single Life: What Hurt Wasn’t Loneliness, But Getting Left Out

Bella DePaulo
4 min readSep 11, 2019

Why do stories about single people focus so much on loneliness and so little on the many ways they are excluded?

“Your single life seems perfect. Is it?” That’s how I remember a tweet that was sent to me by someone I don’t know, then deleted. I don’t think anyone has a perfect life, single or otherwise — I sure don’t — but it was an interesting…

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Bella DePaulo

“America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience,” according to the Atlantic. SINGLE AT HEART book coming on Dec 5, 2023. www.belladepaulo.com